Dating
On Campus: 10 Lessons To Spice Up Your Social Life
By April
Masini
If you are
ready to start winning in the dating world, follow this simple
strategy for success:
Lesson
1: First Impressions
They
are immediate, long lasting, and usually permanent. Regardless
of how great you are, and no matter how sweet you can be once
someone gets to know you, the reality is, your dating success
will be based almost entirely upon the other person's initial
sense of who and what you are.
Lesson
2: If you want the part, look the part
Statistics
show that how we appear speaks more about us, and is more important,
than what we say verbally.
Lesson
3: Act the part
It
is a fact that in our personal affairs, as in all our business
dealings, we sell ourselves first. Poor attitude, image, and behavior
will adversely affect your dating success, just as it will negatively
affect your success in business.
Lesson
4: Be the part.
The
initial impression you make on a prospective date predicts whether
she (or he) will take the time to get to know you. Dating, as
well as business, is all about sales. You must think of yourself
as a product and the person you want to date as the buyer.
Lesson
5: Dating is about sales and sales is a numbers game
If
you want to multiply your success immediately in dating (or just
about anything else), learn, understand, and embrace the concept
behind "the numbers game." Accept and follow these tenets:
You are a
product;
You are the
product's salesperson, its packager, and its advertiser;
The person
you're trying to attract is your customer. They make their buying
decisions based upon presentation, packaging, and advertising.;
The world's
best salespeople don't have a 100 percent sales rate, a 75 percent
rate, a 50 percent or even a 25 percent rate. The world's best
salespeople are lucky to maintain a 10 percent sales rate and
count themselves lucky if one out of every ten "pitches"
results in a sale.
Lesson
6: Confidence = success
The
number one quality both men and women seek in a date or a mate
is confidence. Confidence is also the key attribute that all professional
salesmen must possess in order to be successful. People do not
buy products or services from someone who has no confidence in
themselves or the products they represent.
Lesson
7: Establish a goal
A
confident person is one with a plan and a goal. What's yours?
Lesson
8: Know your target market and give what they want
Understand
to whom you are trying to sell yourself and what they are interested
in buying.
Lesson
9: Analyze the competition and do things better
Just
as you would study a competitor in business or a rival sports
team, study your dating competition if you want to win!
Lesson
10: Take action and follow through
Deal
with your fear of rejection. Stop investing your energy and self-worth
in outcomes. Instead ofthinking of 'misses' as 'failures,' think
of them as 'practice shots'. Dating is a process. Stop placing
so much importance on what the person you are interested in thinks
of you. After all, you don't know if you would even like them
once you get to know them, do you?
Set small
goals and accomplish them, one by one. Get passionate about your
goals and your life. Enthusiasm is contagious, if you are excited
about your life, people will be excited about being with you.
Dress for
success. Always put your best foot forward And don't forget to
perfect your sales pitch. If you keep doing the same thing, you
will keep getting the same result.
Bonus
Lesson: Live as if there may be no tomorrow
Realize
there are no guarantees, no dress rehearsals, and (usually) no
second chances. Make each day "your day," one in which
you did all that you could do.
Nicknamed
"the new millennium's Dear Abby," by the media, April
Masini is author of the best-selling book Date Out Of Your League,
and is the publisher of AskApril.com the edgy, provocative dating
and relationship online magazine. April writes what Dear Abby
will never print, and what your shrink doesn't have the guts to
tell you! Visit www.askapril.com for more dating success information.
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